Dear Renee(Love Mechanic),

I have been dating this girl for the past month or so.  Everything has been going great so far.  I am 27 and she is 23, a nursing student. The other night she asked me if I would go with her to a Wine and Cheese at her sorority.  But before I said yes or no, she said she had to tell me something.  The something she had to tell me was that she tends to dance a little provocatively and sometimes it happens that she ends up dancing with several guys, etc.  She wanted to see if that would be a problem.  She assured me that it was nothing, and that it was just the way she dances. Everyone is just having fun.  So my question is should I worry about this and be upset?  I don't want something so silly end up coming between us.
Thanks
Adam

Dear Adam

OH the wild ways of college days! She is being honest and wanted to let you know how she plays with her friends. Dancing these days is quite provocative…and sexy dancing is on TV all the time!  The truth is…she is in college and sorority parties can get wild! The parties are meant to be fun and dancing isn’t a threat to a relationship if you are secure with her. I guess you will have to go and experience this first hand to see if she crosses over boundaries you will or will not feel comfortable with. This is also a good test to see how she treats you in front of her friends. At least she let you know in advance out of respect for you and a little dancing in front of you is better than her not having you along with for the evening.
She sounds honest, a lot of fun and the fact that she is a bit sexy is probably one of the reasons you like her to begin with. She is dating YOU and wants you to be apart of her world. Have fun and see what the night will bring...if she ends up being inappropriate or grinding on other men all night definitely have a problem…other than that have some fun and let jealousy roll off your shoulders…it’s a sure sign of insecurity! Give it a try and see if you can handle it…if not, date someone that isn’t in college. That is the phase of life she is in…read about the other phases in my book Love Mechanics to help you see what phases you are experiencing the dating game. Come attend my seminar and learn more about how women think.
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