Dear Renee Love Mechanics,

Love your column and your POD CASTS. I am stuck.  I see pretty girls, I talk them, I get their phone numbers, I call them, and I haven't been getting phone calls back.  I have tried
several different approaches when I call. The old industry standard was waiting a minimum of three days.  Well that didn't work. So I thought I seemed too eager.  I then waited more than a week, I left a message, and there was no return phone call.  I even asked out the cute red head at the coffee shop, she said yes.  So this time I gave her my number because I didn't want to come off too aggressive, and there was no call. I kept thinking what am I doing wrong?

I tried to talk to a couple of different females about this, and they all said keep calling until you are asked to stop calling.  But I think that is just too creepy for me.  I usually leave three messages, no more than four. If I don't get a phone call, then I kind of picked up on the hint that she is not interested.  And if she is too busy to call me back, I think she isn't someone who I would want to go out with anyway.

I seem to be doing everything right when I see an attractive female, because I get her number at the end of the conversation.  But there is a black whole between that, and getting a date.  I have ruled out talking myself out of a date by saying too much too quick, because I never get to talk to them.
And I ruled out fake phone numbers, because I have talked to a couple of the roommates.
Am I having bad luck, or am I doing something wrong?  Before I get another pretty girl's phone number and screw that up, can this be fixed?

Troubled in LA

Dear troubled in LA.

This sounds sooooo frustrating.... what a bummer! Remember most women are auditory so something you may be saying something that is turning them off. I have a few suggestions for you!
1. Get a tape recorder and listen to your voice! Have you ever listened to your own voice?” 
Do you have a feminine tone or high pitched voice? Some men aren’t aware of how they sound over the phone. They leave messages that sound boring? Needy? frustrated? Gay?
Sound familiar? I’m sure the tone of some people voices irritates you! How does yours sound?
2. Check your vibes…. I get a distinct “nice guy vibe” from you with out knowing you! I don’t mean that harshly but you might be sending out a vibe that seems needy and it may come across with out you being aware of it! Have you read my book Love Mechanics? It will help you get clear on the vibes you send and help you learn what women want!
3. Be a man with a plan! When you call have a place to take them with a date in mind! Most men leave a message like” hi Susan Bob here calling to say hi…give ma a call soon! Bye!
Instead try” Hey Susan it was so fun running into you on Saturday. I have tickets to a great concert Friday and you and I would have a blast! Call me by tomorrow to let me know if you’re available! My # is ---- and I’m looking forward to having some fun!  Feel the difference by being “A man with a plan!” than just a normal message! There need to be a call to action!  You are selling her on a good time with you! It’s more difficult for her not to call .If she doesn’t then she is not interested! Read the book there is a whole chapter on “Being a Man with a Plan! These tools WORK! Come try Rapid dating and practice you’re dating skills and soon I’m hosting online seminars so you can talk to me live. Go to www.Rapiddating.com to sign up on our email list and get informed so I can help tune you up! If you have a dating dilemma or question please send it to: Renee@LoveMechanics.com and I will do my best to answer your questions. I am here to help!

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